Dec 25 2008
The Perfect Christmas Gift For Your Wife
The perfect Christmas gift for your wife is very inexpensive. In fact, all it will cost you is time. If you have basic computer knowledge, get on and print up a few “coupons”! If you aren’t well versed on the computer, get a crayon and a piece of paper…just make some coupons! I’m not talking about the 45 cents off of ground round - type of coupon. I’m talking about coupons that tell your precious bride, “This coupon entitles you to one night of not having to cook!” Don’t print a few! One for each month would be great. You may want to stipulate that only one of those coupons can be used each month. Let it be noted that certain restrictions apply due to quality of life issues.
Be creative and unafraid. Write one that gives her one weekend without doing laundry or dishes. You can do it! Just don’t use bleach on anything (even if she says it’s OK). Trust me. Pay attention to her in her daily routine. Become aware of what makes her sigh the most, or what her most disliked chore is (for my bride it’s cooking), then make her some coupons, redeemable at any time, to do it for her!
Now for the “pièce de résistance”. The gift that keeps on giving. The gift that she will remember, and hopefully, still be enjoying years from now! Make a romantic coupon on the computer. If you’re still using the crayon, draw a big heart and color it bright red! You will want to make a lot of these! Write on it, “This coupon entitles you to a night of romance, and luxurious pampering”. That’s what I’m talkin’ about, baby! Just remember, this is a gift FOR HER!
Here’s a few ideas to consider for her special night(s). If you have some extra cash, dinner at her favorite restaurant is always a good start. If not, something as simple as making her a night - time snack or treat is a great way to serve her (even on a regular basis). My bride loves that! “After all”, she says, “I serve everybody else in this house every day”. It’s the simple things that matter most.
After that, if you don’t have candles in your bedroom or bathroom already, go around the house and collect all the candles your wife has around the home. If you don’t have any in your home, you can get some small scented candles from $3 - $5 dollars depending where you shop. If you can’t decide on a scent, vanilla is a safe choice.
While she is unaware and hopefully relaxing in another room, set those candles up in the bedroom and bathroom and light them. Turn off (or dim) all the lights and let the candles set the mood. Soft music adds to the ambiance as well.
Start a hot bubble bath or a shower for her, then go, and get the bride of your youth! Be gentle and attentive to her. Flirt with her. Wash her hair and her back, massaging her stressed muscles in the heated water. Remember, this is a gift for her! When she’s done, take some time and blow dry her hair and then take some more time and gently brush it for her.
Lead her to the bed and have her rest comfortably on it. Now it’s time for some serious pampering. I like to have a ceramic bowl of Extra Virgin Olive Oil warming on one of those electric candle heaters (looks like a coaster for cups) that cause the scent of the candle to fill the air. If you don’t have one of those, you can microwave the bowl for about 10 - 20 seconds. Make sure it is warm, not scalding. Covering your hands in oil and rubbing them together vigorously warms it to a pleasing touch for her as well.
Your wife may prefer body lotions. Make sure you warm that up in your hands before rubbing it on her. Cold fluid or lotion on her warm, relaxed body is disruptive and somewhat inconsiderate. We prefer Olive Oil because it refreshes and moisturizes her skin and it is far more conducive to a consistent, smooth, body rub. It also washes away easily afterwards. More to the point however, it allows your hands to glide consistently and smoothly over her skin without the stopping - stuttering effect body lotion can have because it dries quickly and unevenly.
The best place to start this hour (make it at least an hour) of indulgence is at her feet. A warm oil massage on her feet will sooth and relax her. Any initial signs of shock on her part will soon give way to appreciative moaning. Do not rush past the ankles or her calf muscles. Remember, this is a gift for her! Take your time. Give your time. Minister to your wife.
Be sure to do an entire body rub, on both sides. Do the front and then the back or vise-versa. Take special care and extra time for the small of her back up to the shoulders. Massaging the front of her shoulders is very relaxing too; just don’t apply as much pressure there. To ensure a thorough thoughtful job, massage her arms, her wrists, her hands and even her fingers. Trust me.
Massage the back of her neck as tension can build up there. Lightly slide your hands on the front of her neck. Gently trace her face with your fingers and very lightly massage her forehead, her eyes, nose, cheekbones and lips. Follow her jawbone to her ears and just behind each ear as well. Repeat this pattern at least a few times
Sing to her softly if it won’t kill the moment. Just as Clint Eastwood said in Magnum Force, “A man’s got to know his limitations”. Flirt with her, tell her what you see as you’re doing this and how it makes you feel. Don’t try sounding like a Hallmark Greeting Card. Just talk to her. Don’t worry about shocking her with the things you say. Not every word that comes out of your mouth at moments like this will be fit for print. Your words, your own words, expressing your desire and love for her as you minister to her will be more romantic and exciting than the best of prose.
That my friend is the perfect Christmas gift for your wife! If you take the time to give your wife your undivided attention, via an hour or two of selfless, attentive ministry to her, it will literally transform your marriage.
